Skall letter No. 29

Diane Soa Scheel – care is the essence

Dear friends,

Some people’s personality and words will stick to your mind forever. Our friend for almost 14 years, sound weaver and distance healer Diane Soa Scheel, is one of those people. We met her in her home where she welcomed us with a superhuman calmness. Diane has always felt that she was different from others. Like a human from another planet, like a member of a star family as she puts it herself. Today she has found her own path but before that she had to break with conventions and what others considered as normal:

“I was born with a strong intuition. As a child I could feel when people were not feeling well or when someone was in pain. Then I would go and lay my hand on that spot or I would go and sit on strangers if I felt that they were lonely.” But suddenly everything changed: “When I was about 5-7 years, my intuition shut down. My mother told me that what I did was wrong and that it attracted too much attention. Somehow it shut down all my energy.” 

After this, several years with loneliness went by and as she reached her twenties, she knew it was time for change as she had been trying to fit in instead of listening to herself. Therefore, she started asking herself questions and continued until she felt she touched base with something that made sense to her. At some point the word spiritual psychology came up. She Googled it and came across a healer school in Copenhagen: “It felt so right,” says Diane, who started to study at the school as she turned 20 and graduated as she turned 25. Afterwards she travelled to Burma for two months to meditate for 19 hours a day. Suddenly it all came back to her.

Today she lives with her gift. The ability to heal and create balance. But what is sound weaving actually?

“When I weave with sound, I contribute with the sound that comes from within me. A sound that is aligned with the space I am in. Often it is a very fine and porous sound that allows the body to return to a state where you feel that you are taken care of. A feeling that most adults seldom have the chance to experience. When I weave sound around people it creates a cocoon around their consciousness. Sound weaving is very intuitive,” says Diane, who uses crystal bowls, shaman drum and a guitar, depending on the actual need.”

She concretizes: “I sense the energy in the room: For instance, if I sense that many people in the room suffer from anxiety, my body will start to recreate balance through sound. It is a sort of care healing,” says Diane who practices sound weaving in groups and one-on-one while also practicing distance healing.

We are lucky to experience her shaman drum ourselves. A drum that was present at the birth of her friend’s daughter and present while she said the last goodbye to her father. After the first pictures are taken and she has changed her clothes for the next shoot she finds it. “I need to drum,” she says as if it is the most natural thing in the world. We follow her and automatically sit down at the floor. The following minutes are magical and almost impossible to describe in words. Her drumming comes from another world and her song from a place deep within her. The room is filled with calmness. We are just sitting there. Listening.

Care is a word that keeps coming back as we talk. Partly because care was not always present in her childhood and partly because she wants to give it better growth conditions.

“Unfortunately, I think neglect of care is something we and the coming generations will, more or less, pass on to our children. We have not created a society where family is first. But in fact, it all starts with the small human beings. In order to allow the nervous system to settle in the small body it requires a lot of presence, time and rest. To a certain extent the mother is able to provide that, but she is also vulnerable and need to be taken care of after giving birth. After a woman has given birth there should be four women around to support her. Then her own needs would be covered, and she would be able to fully cover the child’s needs. If she is left on her own all day and only with a small snack to make it through the day, it is not easy. We cannot do the laundry and cook and also cover all our child’s or children’s needs. I think there is a weakness in our mother culture,” says Diane with an intense look in the eyes. She continues: “I am here to advocate for a new culture, a care culture.  Just like we have a Ministry of Health we should have a Ministry of Care. That would build a strong society, strong children and strong mothers.”

Diane has two small children herself. What does she wish to pass on?

“Care.” She holds her breath. Silence fills the room, and for a minute the calm music in the background takes over. She continues: “When you have a bad day, there must be someone to take care of you, not someone to correct you. Someone who is ready to listen to you and be there until you stop crying or until you are not angry anymore or whatever might be the issue. Then you will learn that it is safe to let go. I believe care will give my children a strong ballast in life. Because the voice we hear from our mother will be there for the rest of our life.”